It's been a few days, well maybe weeks since my last post. I'm in the process of gathering information from my mom and other places to write a book about my mom and her life. Anyway, that is why I haven't been blogging, my mind is preoccupied.
My college boys were home from school this weekend. Justin was only home for 24 hours and Jacob has been home about 5 days.
It got me thinking about raising kids and how as parents we try to steer them in the right direction but so many times they demand to figure it out themselves. Sometimes the kids listen and go in the way I think is right but other times I feel like I'm banging my head on a brick wall. It's really hard as a mother to balance the need to fix things for them and knowing when to just back off and let them figure it out for themselves no matter what the cost. I remember a situation with my oldest son that required serious intervention a few years back. It involved a girl and he was dead set that she was worth all the headaches he seemed to have over their relationship. Ron and I both talked numerous times with him, questioned his reasoning and we even talked to both of them along with her parents. It's funny, at least now when I think about it. I knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that this girl was NOT the one for Justin. It wasn't even that I didn't like her. I did like her and I want the best for her even now, I just knew that Justin wasn't the one. However, he didn't want to hear anyones opinion, least of all mine. One day though, he just decided on his own that he was done. I think I heard the angels doing a dance in heaven. Seriously. I know that God will bless Justin for waiting for the best that God has. I think he's found it, but time will tell. I know that Justin has done it right this time and I really feel that I can relax and let him go at this on his own. Not because I approve of the girl, but because I know that Justin is relying on the Lord to do this, not just going at it himself. It takes a man of great Character to remain single for over two years, waiting for the one he knows is worth waiting for. I'm impressed of how much my son has grown. Not only in his faith this year, but just as a man. It's pretty cool to watch.
That is my prayer for the rest of my kids. That they would pray and wait for the one that God has. The best. It takes a lot of patience. I honestly don't know if I could wait. I know I didn't wait and it caused a lot of heart aches. If a relationship is not built on a mutal relationship with the Lord, it makes it so much harder when the going gets tough.